Unify thread metadata updates above store (#22236)

- make ThreadStore::update_thread_metadata accept a broad range of
metadata patches
- keep ThreadStore::append_items as raw canonical history append (no
metadata side effects)
- in the local store, write these metadata updates to a combination of
sqlite and rollout jsonl files for backwards-compat. It special cases
which fields need to go into jsonl vs sqlite vs whatever, confining the
awkwardness to just this implementation
- in remote stores we can simply persist the metadata directly to a
database, no special casing required.
- move the "implicit metadata updates triggered by appending rollout
items" from the RolloutRecorder (which is local-threadstore-specific) to
the LiveThread layer above the ThreadStore, inside of a private helper
utility called ThreadMetadataSync. LiveThread calls ThreadStore
append_items and update_metadata separately.
- Add a generic update metadata method to ThreadManager that works on
both live threads and "cold" threads
- Call that ThreadManager method from app server code, so app server
doesn't need to worry about whether the thread is live or not

codex-rs/Cargo.lock

@@ -3687,6 +3687,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "codex-protocol",
  "codex-rollout",
  "codex-state",
+ "codex-utils-path",
  "pretty_assertions",
  "serde",
  "serde_json",