avoid notification for non-existent delete objects (#11514)

Skip notifications on objects that might have had
an error during deletion, this also avoids unnecessary
replication attempt on such objects.

Refactor some places to make sure that we have notified
the client before we

- notify
- schedule for replication
- lifecycle etc.

cmd/bucket-replication.go

@@ -283,7 +283,7 @@ func replicateDelete(ctx context.Context, dobj DeletedObjectVersionInfo, objectA
 		} else {
 			versionPurgeStatus = Failed
 		}
-		logger.LogIf(ctx, fmt.Errorf("Unable to replicate delete marker to %s/%s(%s): %s", rcfg.GetDestination().Bucket, dobj.ObjectName, versionID, err))
+		logger.LogIf(ctx, fmt.Errorf("Unable to replicate delete marker to %s/%s(%s): %s", rcfg.GetDestination().Bucket, dobj.ObjectName, versionID, rmErr))
 	} else {
 		if dobj.VersionID == "" {
 			replicationStatus = string(replication.Completed)